5 WAYS TO STAY CENTERED THROUGH BIG LIFE TRANSITIONS

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I know you will know what I mean when I say big life transitions are tough. Exciting for sure, but challenging nonetheless. There is so much unknown and trepidation, even if deep down you know that everything will turn out ok. With transitions like marriage, starting a family, changing jobs, moving across the country, or whatever other big life event we might be going through, the challenge is to stay centered and keep our sense of self as we navigate through uncertainties and changes.

Here are 5 ways I am learning to stay calm and strong as I move through some of my own life changes:

1. Use your body to stay grounded: As much as stress from major life transitions make you just want to eat comfort foods and mope around, keep a daily routine to stay active, exercise your body, and eat well. The more we can use our body as an anchor, the easier it will be to stay centered on good self care as we move through challenging times. A strong body and good nutrition will help us to stay mentally sharp and emotionally strong when things get challenging.

2. Take time to sit and breathe: I know it may sound counter-intuitive when all you probably feel is constant stress, worry, and restlessness.  I personally feel like I need to do, do, do, so that I can feel like I am in control of something and accomplishing something. Sometimes the thing that helps the most though, is to take a break from the anxious thoughts and let yourself just calm your mind and deepen your breath.

3. Renew your vision: Keep bringing yourself back to your big picture end goal.  We may not know how the details will play out, but our job is to keep our eyes on our ultimate vision to keep us moving forward.  What are the feelings you want to feel as this transition happens? What do you want the final outcome to be? See yourself experiencing that final outcome and know that you are on your way.

4. Keep talking it out: Whether with your partner or a supportive friend, keep the communication open so you can sort through your thoughts, needs, and wants.  It’s not easy to keep everything bottled up within yourself, especially since most life transitions affect more than just yourself.  Share your feelings, fears, and desires in positive ways  is a healthy thing.

5. Relax and believe in yourself: Take actions that feel right to you when the time is right but remember that life also has its own agenda for us.  Relax, breathe, and know that everything is unfolding as it should.  Believe that you are doing the right things and that whatever you want the most from your heart will be what the Universe wants for you too. Life wants the best for us and with time, everything will fall into its right place.

Even when life transitions may seem challenging, daunting, or unsettling…they are a sign that you are growing and that life is evolving forward.  Stay centered and grounded within yourself and watch life bring you new amazing things that you never even imagined.

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YOU ARE HERE TO DO SOMETHING FOR THE WORLD: DO IT

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You have something unique to contribute to the world.

When you find what that is, your whole life makes sense.

You were born with a specific purpose for you to share with the world. A flower has its purpose, a river has its purpose, a queen bee has her purpose, and YOU, as exactly who you are at this point in time and place, have a purpose. Your purpose is the essence of who you are and what you are here to do for the world just by being you. It’s you at your most natural and best self, you at your most giving and heartful self, and you when you feel like “being or doing this makes me feel amazing about myself and my place in the world”.

Your purpose may or may not be what you do for a living, but it is how you bring the most value to those around you. You apply your purpose to whatever situation or setting you are in because it is what you love being and doing the most. When you spend time living your purpose, you feel the most alive and grateful for being you.

When you look for ways to offer your purpose to the world, things in your life flow easily and make sense, you feel energized and are propelled forward in big ways. Start moving in the direction of your purpose today.

Exploring Your Purpose
  1.  I feel like my purpose is:
  2. I feel the most present and aware of my gifts when I am:
  3. In some of my most memorable and happy memories, I was:
  4. If I could travel the world and do this everyday for the people, it would be:
  5. If I were living my purpose, I would be doing more of:

Purpose Statement: Write a statement of what your purpose is. Don’t worry about exact wording, just capture the essence as best as you can. Post your purpose statement as a reminder to stay on path.

Knowing your life’s purpose is step one. Step two is sharing it with the world through your actions. You start to align yourself and your life with your purpose by choosing actions that honor what you are here to share with others. These actions you take starts with the self, and expand into bigger actions everyday with others, through your work, your dream projects, and your service work. There are hundreds of opportunities for you to act on your purpose. The more your actions align with your purpose, the more fun, meaning, balance, ease, and fulfillment you start to experience in your life.

My Purpose in Action: Brainstorm and list actions to start doing. Think of actions with yourself, with other people, and with the various things you do in life. It’s time to live your phenomenal purpose out loud.

  • Action 1:
  • Action 2:
  • Action 3:
  • Action 4:
  • Action 5:

Your life is determined by your actions everyday.

Be of purpose with your life.

 

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4 WAYS TO GATHER ENERGY FOR YOUR DREAM PROJECT

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I know how it goes. You have a full-time job that takes up most of your day, you have a family that demands your care and attention, you have a partner that you want to spend quality time with, you have a house full of chores to do, you need to find some time to exercise, and if you’re lucky, you get a little bit of ME TIME once in a long while to enjoy some down time for yourself. I know, because I have been there…many times.

How, then, you ask…do I find the time and energy to even begin thinking of working on a dream project, let alone carve out actual time and energy to complete it. Sometimes this question is the very thing that stops us in our tracks, and projects never get started and dreams never even get the opportunity to take flight.

Here are four ways that have helped me get through the challenging yet exciting transition of working on dream projects while balancing a full-time life. These strategies have allowed me to actualize many dream projects into reality and I am enjoying the blessings of living my dreams full-time. I hope these tips help you to do the same.

  1. Have tunnel vision on what you are trying to create: The only way to get shit done when you’re already so busy is to have absolute focus and dedication in the direction you are trying to move towards. There’s no wishy-washy-ness about it. The rest of the world may not know what you’re working on after the kids have gone to bed, but YOU know, and you think about it every chance you get. You are hooked on what you’re trying to make happen and you come back to your project day after day, night after night, even if you only get to work on it for 15 minutes at a time.
  1. Take care of yourself well: Dreams are for the long haul and you are going to need energy that will sustain you for a long time. Taking good care of yourself is not a luxury, but an essential necessity if you want to achieve anything worth doing. You will need physical stamina from exercise, you will need nourishment from healthy foods, you will need fuel from good sleep, and you will need refreshing energy from having fun, de-stressing, and enjoying love and connection from those around you. The more you take care of yourself, the more positive energy you have, and the more motivated you will be to keep working on dream projects at the end of a long day.
  1. Focus on the knowing that your dream project will serve someone: Whatever your dream project may be, if it’s something you are passionate about and something that gives you joy and inspiration, most likely it will also do the same for those who get to see and experience your dream project when you’re done. When you can remember that there will be people benefiting from the awesomeness of your project, you will be reignited to keep going! Your dream projects are bigger than yourself…it will carry a momentum and purpose beyond boundaries when you keep in mind of the people you will impact and serve.
  1. Learn discipline and consistency: Not my strongest suit, but I’ve had to learn how to sit myself down to work on my dream projects when friends are out enjoying drinks on a sunny patio or when my husband sits there watching TV. You must be willing to put in the work and to crank out results one day at a time until your project is complete. Each day that you work on your dream project is a day closer to you living the life of your dreams. It won’t happen overnight, but it will happen when you put in the time, day after day.

Keep your vision in front of you everyday and be relentless about making it happen. Believe in yourself and your ability to get things done and work hard. Soon you will be enjoying the fruits of your labor and nothing will ever taste so good! Enjoy and celebrate your journey!

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3 WAYS TO EMPOWER YOURSELF THROUGH RUNNING

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There are so many things I love about running and I know I be a runner for the rest of my life. Of course this wasn’t always the case, since I used to hate running, always coming in at the back of the pack during those awful mile run tests in P.E. class during highschool. Luckily since then I have found my love for running as I run along our beautiful beaches on the Seawall, doing the Maui Half Marathon under the hot Hawaiian sun, and now training for my 6th half marathon with the Scotiabank Vancouver Half Marathon in June. Many things keep me running, but the way my runs keep me feeling empowered is how I know I will be a runner for life.

Here are three simple but powerful ways to empower yourself through your runs:

1. Use your running time to be present and connect – Take a break from the craziness of daily life and use your running time to finally tune in to yourself. Use the rhythm of your breathing to clear your mind and let yourself feel your own presence as your stride connects with the ground. During this time, you don’t need to worry about anything or anyone else except yourself, your body, and your heart beating. As you run, you are reminded that you can put yourself first, that your needs are important priorities, and that you could use more time to be present for yourself.

2. Practice pumping up your positive self-talk – I am a big fan of affirmations, especially while I run! The combination of heart pumping, sweat dripping, and thinking thoughts that make me feel strong and powerful is the biggest adrenaline rush I get on my runs. Whatever I am wanting to achieve at that point in my life is the soundtrack I play in my head. I look forward to running because I know I’ll come back even more pumped. Each time you run is a chance for you to practice positive self-talk.

3. Run through the items on your gratitude list – When we feel good, we do good, and this is one of my favorite side-effects of running. Especially on days when I’m not feeling strong physically, I’ll focus more of my energy on feeling grateful for all the things in my life, including being able to breathe and being out there pounding the pavement. When you can remember that there are others struggling simply to take a breath or who lack the privilege of being able to move their legs, you quickly appreciate your own ability to be out there, enjoying this excruciating thing we call running.

When I am gasping for air during the Scotiabank Vancouver Half Marathon as I push myself to run my sub-2:00 goal, I know I’ll be relying on the strength I have built from some of these tips as well as those kilometers I will log between now and race day. From one empowered runner to another, see you out there on the road! Happy running!

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